Who should I invite to my wedding?

13 Nov

Deciding who to invite to your wedding is one of the biggest choices you’ll make. Here are some tips to help you create a meaningful guest list that fits your vision and budget:

1. Immediate Family and Closest Friends:

Non-negotiables: Start with your immediate family (parents, siblings, grandparents) and closest friends—those who would be deeply missed if they weren’t there. This is the core group that makes the day feel special and personal.

2. Extended Family:

Consider inviting close aunts, uncles, cousins, and other relatives you’re close to. If you invite one family unit (e.g., your mom’s siblings), it’s generally a good idea to invite them all to avoid hurt feelings.

3. Close Friends Beyond Inner Circle:

Think about friends who have been consistently involved in your life. You don’t have to invite every friend you’ve ever had, but those who have been supportive and significant over the years.

4. Significant Others of Close Friends and Family:

If your friends or close family members have long-term partners, it’s considerate to invite them. Most people prefer to attend with their significant other, and it respects those relationships.

5. Work Colleagues:

Only invite colleagues if you’re genuinely close outside work. You don’t have to invite your entire office! A small group of close colleagues or none at all is completely acceptable.

6. Family Friends and Parents’ Guests:

If your parents are helping financially, they may have a few guests they’d like to invite, like close family friends or relatives. Set a limit on this list to keep things manageable.

7. Plus-Ones for Singles:

A good rule is to offer a plus-one to guests who are in serious relationships or if they won’t know many people there. If space is limited, consider letting close singles know they’ll be in great company with other friends.

Tips for Staying Within Your Limit:

Start with a Draft: List out everyone you think should be there, then start trimming as needed.
Be Honest About Connections: If you’re unsure, think about whether you’d keep in touch with this person in five years.
Communicate Your Vision: Let close family and friends know your guest list vision early to avoid last-minute additions.

In the end, the ideal guest list is one that makes the day feel joyful and genuine, surrounded by people who love and support you both. Do you envision a larger celebration or something more intimate?